The Nature Of Love

I shall attempt to say a few things about Love. A formidable task for I am aware that Love is so formless and hence beyond the mind and therefore ultimately beyond words. Perhaps this is why I've pretty much skipped this topic for so long...

Love is formless. Yet I will here endeavour to put into words something that points to the formlessness.

Love has no object and no objective. By this I mean to say that Love simply is. To Love some "thing" or person separate from everything else is not possible... this is a projection of a feeling one has have come to associate with whatever glimpses of love one may have had.

Love is not an emotion—although the experience of love may give rise to a vast array of different emotions. Love can be experienced in ones feeling world, but that in itself is not an emotion. I differentiate between the two - feelings and emotions.

Love pursues no-thing for it is whole and complete in and of itself.

For a human Being Love is a experienced as a state of consciousness—a state of Being—that is either On or Off. It is in fact always there as our innate nature in the formlessness of all That I AM. It is only ones identification with love that waivers... for most people such an identification is often absent. Even in the experience of Love for most people it is immediately grasped by the mind / ego and then projected out. In that moment of projection the direct experience of Love is lost - only a memory of love now remains. That memory usually doesn't last very long within the ego's world of time and space and hence the ego / mind starts to search for love. Over time the memory fades so much that eventually the ego / mind is only searching for false-love—which can take many forms, even the complete antithesis of Love.

Love is the most powerful "thing" in the Universe. Yet it is ultimately a non-thing.

I don't expect that to make much sense to the mind.

The unenlightened mind, by the way, always tries to make "something" out of Love. It is not content with Love for Love's sake. It will try to convert that Love into something—to mean something. The ego-mind tries to make that which is inconclusive by it's very nature, into a conclusion. Ultimately Love is conclusive, for it is the conclusion of all things. Yet the ego-mind also is concluded, completed, ended in that. Hence the ego-mind—yours and mine—will never be satisfied with Love for Love's sake. It will always try to make Love about itself—which is impossible. For Love is Real and the ego-mind is not.

Essentially the unenlightened mind will try to give Love some sort of form. That mind is not comfortable with the formless. I have experienced this many times. For instance if I start to have a close relationship with a Woman and a great deal of Love starts to pour into my experience the mind will try to make this into something. Usually it will try to make this Love about the Woman. This is the projecting that I referred to in the above paragraph. The mind will project this Love out onto the woman as an object—but as I said before, Love has no object.

Really it's about what this Woman has stirred up within my experience of myself. If I am ready and willing to Love then my interaction with an-other will give shape and form to that Love in my experience and it will then impress itself upon my mind, my heart, and my feelings.

Love simply is.

An absolute experience of Love is an experience of God, which subsequently is an experience of Truth or Reality. Realisation of God is therefore marked by dissolution of self into Love. Once the dissolution is complete, or even nearly complete, re-cognition of this state within oneself may fade rapidly... until eventually all that remains is deep Peace,Stillness, Silence and Bliss. This Peace, Stillness, Silence and Bliss was actually there all along—it is the nature of that which I AM right here and now within you and all other Beings—but the avoidance of Love and misidentification with form (in all it's many manifestations and subtleties) maintains a self-created veil between your ego-mind and Love. In fact it is this issue of misidentification that gives rise to the experience of the ego-mind in the first place.

This may sound like a contradiction. Most people would say they are looking for Love. I would say, however, that most of us are very very busy avoiding Love.

Why?

In order to avoid taking full responsibility for that which I am co-creating. In order to avoid death of the ego-mind. It is only the ego-mind that would proclaim to be searching for love—for it is only the ego-mind that is not love but merely a projection of something else—yet it is the last thing the ego-mind actually wants to touch. It would be a bit like an Ice burg searching for a fire and jumping into it.

Love does not reside "out there".
It only resides "in here".
Within.
That which I AM is love.
I AM that love within all Beings... within all things.
God / Love is the one and only power in Creation, and that I AM.
I AM That within me, within you, within everything.
Love does not reside "out there".
In Love's eyes, "out there" does not exist. There is only the interior. Love is about interiority.

Love wants nothing.
Love is not fulfilling.
Yet in Love I AM ultimately and forever fulfilled.

It can seem that love brings fulfillment, but only so long as there is still some degree of ego-mind simply getting a taste of Love. Once the Love is a total experience then there is really no-thing to be fulfilled, for everything that is Real is whole and complete within its own right.

God is not seeking fulfillment.

Love is so beautiful it is unimaginable. Yet it is not beauty in the relative sense, as we are use to in this world.
When I experience something truly beautiful that touches something within... that is a small experience of Love. Not a Love out there. Rather, the Love that is the fabric of my interiority.

To be in Love with a person is possible—although not in the normal sense of the word. I am simply saying that two people can be in Love together—or more to the point, two people can be in Love—entirely independent of each other—and then come together and unify their experience and emanation of Love.

I suggest that this is different from what most of us mean when we say "I am in love with so and so". What is being said there is that "I am loving so and so"—but whether or not I am "In Love" is another matter altogether. Actually, to be more accurate, what is really being said is, "I feel fantastic about how my interaction with PERSON-X makes me feel". It this other person makes me feel strongly enough I will associate it with love. It has, of course, really got nothing to do with this other person.

If I truly love Joe or Sue then it must be true that I love every other person also. It may be that when I am around Sue I more deeply recognise the Love that I AM and hence my experience of love is intensified. This assumes there is still and ego-mind active, which is quite okay and quite normal for one who is in a body in this world. It is all a question of identification.

There does come a point where the ego-mind can completely drop away, if one so chooses. It all depends on what Love / God is motivating you do "do" within the grand scheme of things.

I don't feel that what I wrote here quite embodies what it was I felt to express - so I shall simply say that Love is not about an-other. It is about a state of being where there is experientially a complete absence of an-other—experientially because it is not a head trip—and hence a realisation of Oneness.

She who is deeply in Love may choose to have a 'special relationship' the more fully explores that Love in the human 'world'. This Love need not be to the exclusion of everyone else. It's simply that One chooses to be a fuller expression of that Love with one particular person. It's not about them. It is for them. Yet it is also for Oneself... for there is only One Self.

It may also be that I feel moved, within Love, to deepen my experience of That which I Am through a relationship with Sue that is based on a mutual commitment to Love. To me this is what intimate relationship is all about. Actually, it is what all relationship is about—except that if one approaches all relationships this way it is unlikely the experience will be mutual. Rather it will tend to be one-sided.

Finding and Loving the Beloved is finding that "other" that most perfectly matches your capacity to commit to Love and be an expression of that Love in the Presence of an-other.

Such a relationship is rare.

There is really no limits to how deep into love such a relationship will go.

Love simply Is.

Love simply Is and It Is so beautiful.

Love Is.

And That I Am.

What follows is a fun yet meaningful play on words...

I love you... I am loving you... I am love-in you.
The later statement is the one closest to the Truth.

May the Grace of God—for that is what it will take—bring you ever closer and deeper into an absolute experience with Love. Within your heart lies the answer to that calling—the calling to Love.

Of course now that your've reach the bottom of this page, it's all just words.
Words are symbols.
They have no meaning.
They are sybolic of whatever it is one is wishing to communicate.
We can really only convey through language that which is of this world. That which is of the mind.
Love is not of this world. Love is not of the mind.

And that's the end of this love story. For now.